Why Do I Give Up So Easily?
There are many reasons why we tend to give up so easily. But it is not just because of mental weakness, but often due to the way we approach the goals and tasks that we set for ourselves.
It’s important to realize, first of all, that giving up is not a trait or inherent quality. It is fixable and possible to overcome. And it’s a matter of changing your mindset and the way you set out to achieve the things you want in life.
You might be giving up easily when it comes to studying, working, applying for a job, exercising, or relationships. But, whichever it is, this guide is going to help you become both more efficient and mentally stronger.
Below, we offer a list of reasons for why you give up so easily but, more importantly, how to fix them.
You Have No Plan
Giving up easily happens most of the time because we have no plan, end goal, or routine. And when this is the case, there is no vision, no path, and nothing to motivate or keep us going – which results in giving up and losing track.
With any goal or task, it’s vital to have a visible plan (even if it is simple) and a manageable routine that you can follow. At the same time, it’s important to envisage what you want to achieve.
In other words: to keep your eyes on the prize.
You Forget The Goal
We tend to give up when we forget the goal or reward at the end of the tunnel. While working towards something, it’s natural to feel stressed, overwhelmed, and tired.
As a result, the goal becomes lost, or we question whether the goal is worth it.
While setting a plan or course of action, it’s always important to hammer home the end result that you want to achieve.
You can do this by writing it down or putting it up on the wall – along with every reason why you want it to happen.
When you feel like giving up, refer to the goal(s) you wrote down to remember why you wanted, and still want, it so badly.
You Set The Bar Too High
One of the biggest causes for giving up easily is setting the bar too high. It’s natural to want instant results, as well as quick progress. But when we set the bar too high, we are also setting ourselves up for failure.
For achieving what we want in life, the first step is to always set realistic, manageable steps towards that goal – even if the course of action seems easy and insignificant at first.
Being able to manage and complete the small goals we set for ourselves is the key to consistent progress and self-gratification. Start small, then work from there.
You Rely On Motivation
Motivation is an amazing feeling – when you feel it. The truth is, motivation is unreliable, so it should not be relied on as the stimulus to do something.
By waiting for motivation, you are essentially giving up before you start.
Instead of waiting for motivation to arrive or trying to motivate yourself, it’s better and more effective to make habits of the tasks at hand. This ties in with creating a routine and a plan that you can manage.
Always set a time for doing something and stick to it, no matter what.
As a result, by making habits of the things you need or want to do, they eventually become automatic. You will no longer rely on motivation, or give up because you don’t feel motivated.
You Don’t Believe In Yourself
This is an obvious and simple reason for giving up – you don’t believe in yourself.
Believing in yourself is easier said than done, and is one of the hardest things to overcome when you want to achieve something that seems impossible.
But, despite that, there are ways to foster self-belief. And it is done by taking small achievable steps towards your goal, building confidence along the way, and knowing that you will get there in the end by just staying in the fight.
You Give Into Short-Term Happiness
Sometimes we put things off or give up on doing something because something else seems more appealing.
For example, instead of studying or working, it is more tempting to do something that is more enjoyable, like watching a movie.
The fix here is to recognize what brings short-term happiness and what brings long-term happiness.
Browsing social media, watching a movie, or chatting with a friend might boost your serotonin levels temporarily and make you feel instantly happy, but these won’t bring long-term happiness.
Making real progress and achieving your goals, however, those are what bring long-term happiness – the kind of happiness that is permanent. It might be difficult, but the end reward will be greater.
You Give Up Too Easily
Last but not least, you give up too easily because you give up too easily. This might seem obvious, or harsh, but it is something that, like all the above, needs to be worked on to achieve what you want in life.
What is the best thing to do when you feel like giving up? To carry on.
Powering through a difficult task or situation not only proves yourself wrong, but builds mental strength, resilience, and the confidence that you can, in fact, do what you set out to do.
Ultimately, it is a way of training your mindset. By not giving up, you are rebelling against the urge and, therefore, teaching yourself never to give up in any difficult situation that life throws your way.
Since we are all naturally ambitious and want things in life, giving up easily can be one of the worst things we can do.
Not only can giving up lead to failure, but it also can lead to beating ourselves up and knocking ourselves down even more.
Whether you find yourself giving up easily when it comes to work, studying, relationships, exercising, or general self-improvement, we hope that you found this guide helpful.
Rest assured that you can achieve anything you want – as long as you take the right mental approach.
Author: Michelle Landeros, LMFT (license:115130)
Michelle Landeros is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist (LMFT). She is passionate about helping individuals, couples and families thrive.
Last updated: December 2, 2022