What You Should Never Tell Your Therapist

It’s crucial to be honest about your therapy goals. But should you always tell your therapist everything?

Therapy can be a lifeline when you’re struggling. Talking to a pro can help you understand yourself better and learn how to cope.

Therapy sessions work best when you’re open. But there are some things you might want to keep to yourself. Sounds weird, right? Let me explain.

If you want to get the most out of therapy, here are five things to avoid saying:

1. Fudging the Truth

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You might think little white lies make you look better. Wrong! Fibbing makes you seem less trustworthy. Your therapist needs the real you to help.

I get it – spilling your guts to a stranger isn’t easy. It’s one reason why some folks never make progress in therapy.

Don’t force yourself to share if you’re not ready. You could end up feeling worse, and it makes your therapist’s job harder.

Be as honest as you can. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Your life won’t get fixed in an hour either.

2. “I’m Talking Your Ear Off!”

Chatting up a storm in therapy isn’t something to feel bad about. For many folks, it’s actually a good thing!

If you’re worried about rambling, just let your therapist know. They can help pick out the important bits.

Use this chance to think about what you’re saying. Ask yourself: “What am I learning?” or “How does this relate to my life?”

Don’t sweat it if you go off-topic. Your therapist will gently steer you back on track.

3. Just the Facts, Ma’am

This one’s for all you logical types who stick to the facts but never dig into your feelings.

Here’s the deal: without sharing how you feel, your therapist can’t get the full picture. Their job gets a whole lot harder.

Let’s say your parents split up when you were a kid. That’s a fact. But if you don’t mention how sad you were about moving away from your friends, your therapist might miss why you’re scared of change now.

Or maybe you had a nasty breakup. Telling your therapist you feel sick when you see your ex with their new flame on social media gives them important info.

Remember: express, don’t just state. Your sessions will be way more helpful.

4. Sorry Not Sorry

Rule number one in therapy: it’s a safe space to let it all out. It’s meant to help you release pent-up feelings that might be messing with your health.

But if you start apologizing for things that aren’t your fault, like how you feel, you’re setting yourself up to fail.

Therapy is about dealing with stuff that’s bugging you. If you want to get better, don’t apologize for your feelings.

Remember, your therapist knows you’re going through tough times. They’re trained to handle it and help you.

It’s not your job to make things easy for your therapist. It’s their job to listen to you.

Sometimes we can’t help how we feel. The only way to accept that is to let it out in a safe space.

5. “Fix Me, Doc!”

Lots of folks go into therapy thinking if they do X, Y, and Z, everything will magically fall into place.

It’s like people who look for a **quick-fix diet** to lose weight fast. They might drop the pounds, but they put it all back on because they didn’t change their lifestyle.

First off, you’re not broken. Everyone’s got flaws. Nobody’s perfect, even if Instagram makes it look that way.

Here’s the truth: if you think therapy is a magic pill and you won’t have to do any work, you’ll be disappointed.

Your therapist knows what to say, but it’s up to you to do the heavy lifting. You’ve got to take action to move forward in life.

If you’re just relying on your therapist to do all the work, you’re missing the point.

The Bottom Line

Now you know what not to say in therapy. This should help you get the most out of your sessions. Be honest, be open, and go in with the attitude that you want to help yourself.

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