How To Survive The Loss Of A Love

How To Survive The Loss Of A Love

How do you cope with the loss of someone special in your life? Is there anything you can do to get through the pain?

The death of a loved one is never easy. Whether sudden or over a period of time, it leaves us feeling lost and alone. There are no words to express our grief and sadness.

In addition, we may feel guilty for not being able to help them more during their illness. We may also be angry that they died before we could say goodbye.

And then there’s guilt about all those things we wish we had said but didn’t.

The loss of a loved one is often accompanied by anger, depression, anxiety, loneliness, and confusion. It can take time to recover from this kind of loss.

But if you want to move on with your life, you need to learn how to deal with emotions. In this article, I will share some tips on dealing with the loss of a loved one.

These ideas are based on my own experience and the experiences of others who have gone through similar situations. Below are some tips below to help you cope with the loss.

How To Survive The Loss Of A Love

how to survive the loss of a love

You might want to try these coping strategies to help you deal with the loss of your loved one.

Take Care Of Yourself Physically And Emotionally

If you let it, your body will feel like it’s been hit by a ton of bricks. Try to take time out for yourself every day. Go on a walk, listen to music, read a book, or watch TV. Do something that relaxes you.

Find ways to express your emotions. Crying is natural, and expressing anger is healthy. You don’t have to hold back. So, talk to people about your sadness and tell them how you feel.

Get plenty of rest. Sleep is important. You’ll feel better rested when you do.

Remember That This Is Not The End

It’s just the beginning of your grieving process. So don’t think about what has happened yet. Instead, focus on planning ahead. What do you want from your future now? How do you plan to move forward?

Talk To People Who Understand

If you’re having trouble dealing with the loss of your beloved, talk to friends, family, clergy, or a counselor. They’ll be able to offer support, understanding, and advice – all things you may need at this difficult time.

Try not to talk to strangers about this event. It might trigger feelings of depression. Instead, focus on conversations with friends and family members.

Be Kind To Yourself

Allow yourself some downtime. You deserve it. Allow yourself time to grieve. Take breaks. Stay close to other loved ones if you need to. Do what you can to comfort yourself.

It’s okay to stay in bed and let your emotions run their course.

Think Positive Thoughts

Remind yourself that this too shall pass. Focus on memories of your deceased loved one. Try to see them as they were before their passing. This way, you will have something good to look back on when you hurt again.

Let Go Of Anger And Resentment

Don’t hold onto bitterness. When your feelings start to build up, push them aside. Remember that your loved one did not die because of you. The person died because they had an illness. Nothing more.

Find Hobbies You Enjoy

A hobby is a fun activity that gives you pleasure. Consider spending time doing projects with friends. For example, if you both enjoy crafts, you could work on making decorations, gifts, or even scrapbooks.

You don’t have to spend money to find your interest. You can always borrow stuff from your local library. Just pick something that won’t cost a lot of money.

Keep Busy

Keep busy. Work, volunteer, exercise, or take up a hobby. Anything that occupies your time will help distract you from thoughts about death.

If you don’t do any activities, you’re likely to lose your mind. Get involved in volunteering, joining clubs, going to community events, etc.

Join A Support Group 

How To Survive The Loss Of A Love

A support group provides you with other individuals who’ve experienced similar losses. These groups also provide information and resources to help you through the grieving process.

Remember that you are not alone. Others feel sad, too. Ask for support from others who care about you.


Laughter helps keep the heart strong. So why not share a joke or two. Not only does it ease tension, but laughing also releases endorphins which relieve stress.

Use humor as a way to cope. Humor helps lighten the mood and keeps your spirits high.

Spend Quality Time With Children

Children are fascinated by the unexpected and new. Therefore, they usually ask questions that challenge you to explain things you’ve learned.

For instance, you could tell them about the dead person. Or, you could visit a cemetery or memorial garden.

Have Faith

Believe that you will eventually come to terms with death. And remember, if you’re religious: God never abandons anyone. He sees us all through our grief.

Know that you’ll get over the pain, and eventually, you’ll find peace. Thank God for the good times you had together. Thank Him for the lessons you learned from your loved one and for the gift of life.

Write Down Memories Of The Departed 

Sometimes, writing down personal memories allows you to reflect on the happy times you shared together.

Enjoy Life As Much As Possible

Live each day as it comes. Each day brings joys and sorrows. Make the best of every moment.

Learn Something New

Explore new interests. Start taking classes at college or join a club. Participate in cultural activities, visit museums, and volunteer.

Practice Gratitude

Finally, mentally thank the deceased for being there for you. Honor all the good times you shared.

Final Thoughts

The death of a loved one is a challenging experience. But it doesn’t have to destroy you. With some patience, understanding, and self-care, you can recover from the loss of a love.

About our Author Michelle Landeros, LMFT license# 115130
Author: Michelle Landeros, LMFT

Michelle Landeros is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist (LMFT). She is passionate about helping individuals, couples and families thrive.

Last updated: June 17, 2024