How To Heal Deep Emotional Wounds
Everyone has been wounded at one time in their lives, and if not then it is likely it will happen one day in the future.
Emotional wounds are very personal to an individual and can live deep inside that person for weeks, months, even years.
However, nobody is alone. Although we see people getting on with their day to day lives, many of those people are silently dealing with trauma and wounds which cannot be healed easily.
We cannot predict what will trigger these wounds, but they can happen to anyone. Because of this, it is important to know how to move forward and not let these emotions take control.
The Unpredictability of Emotions
We cannot predict how our emotions will impact us. For what may be a day of sadness could lead to a lifetime of depression. For what is a moment of heartbreak could lead to a decade of distrust.
We do not know how our emotions will play out, and because of this we are all prone to carrying emotional wounds.
Emotional wounds can vary depending on the individual; these wounds may be minor or they could be clinically severe. The cause for these wounds are not straightforward and are very personal, yet there are some reasons behind them.
Some examples include:
- Financial hardships
It is important to know that there is always room for healing, even if it does not seem clear at first. Healing, however, takes a lot of bravery as that struggling person needs to take that first leap.
Although a person’s wounds vary, there is one thing that all have in common. They are all suffering with trauma. Situations which traumatize people inevitably leads to wounds, and this takes plenty of work to heal from them.
Below, we will be taking you through some of the ways of healing, helping you to retrieve that happiness missing from your lives.
Emotional wounds will not disappear overnight. When taking these steps towards a healed self, it is important to take it slow and not to force anything.
You may be trying to recover and feel no change for a number of weeks or even months, but this is no reason to rush things. It is important to take baby steps healing day by day. Only then will you slowly see results. Patience is key.
Take Some Time To Escape
It is likely that you are having to carry your stress whilst juggling long days of work, study, and looking after children. Even socializing can be too much for people.
Make sure to take some time away for yourself and don’t be afraid to escape.
Set some time aside, perhaps a few weeks, and spend that time away from the world and in your own bubble. Take that time to relax and focus on yourself.
Emotional wounds arise because you have not given yourself that time to heal, so take that time. Book time off from work, hire a babysitter, and escape.
During this time, remember what it was which caused you this pain, write it down in a journal, release all of that pent up stress.
This time off is also a great time to pick up a hobby such as bike riding or arts and crafts. For the sake of your mental health, take a break and escape from the chaotic world.
Speak To Someone You Trust
Although probably the most difficult step, it is the most necessary step too. Find someone to talk to. These emotions have built up and wounded you because you have allowed them to fester inside. It is time to release them.
Whether you choose to speak to a friend, a family member, or a therapist, there is always someone there to reach out to. By speaking to a trusted person, you will be surprised by the sense of relief you will feel.
It is no lie this will be difficult, but in order to heal you have to get through the tough times and push forward for a better future. Know that you are not alone.
Setbacks Are Not Always Bad
You have gone through something which has pained you and because of this you are dealing with trauma. It likely feels like your world has crumbled, but it shouldn’t always have to be viewed negatively.
Setbacks happen to everyone, whether that is due to losing a job or losing somebody close to them, and this will cause plenty of emotional wounds, but just know that setbacks are not bad.
It is okay to feel down, it is okay to cry, it is okay to struggle to smile. What is not okay is allowing this pain to consume you.
Recognize that these setbacks were meant to happen and because of them you are able to grow stronger. Do not let the pain control you and do not let these wounds scar.
It is normal to have wounds; healing them is the hard part. Our emotions are very powerful and there is no predicting how they will affect us.
When going through a difficult time such as bereavement, heartbreak or financial difficulties, this can lead to a period of trauma.
It is that trauma which creates those deep emotional wounds. However, this should not defeat you.
It is important to remember that you are not alone. These emotions are wounds, and all wounds heal. And yes, they may scar you, but that doesn’t mean you cannot grow from it.
Above, we have listed some ways you can start to heal: start slow, take some time to escape, speak to someone you trust and acknowledge that setbacks are not always bad.
The emotional wounds you have should not be looked at as defeat because that makes you vulnerable. These wounds should be valued, and those scars should be battle scars to live and learn from.
Emotions can tear a person apart but do not give up. There is always light at the end of the tunnel and that begins with healing.
Author: Michelle Landeros, LMFT
Michelle Landeros is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist (LMFT). She is passionate about helping individuals, couples and families thrive.
Last updated: September 24, 2023