How important is self-esteem?

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Self-esteem is the secret sauce of life

Self-esteem flavors every bite of our life’s journey. It’s like the spice that makes our work sizzle, our relationships bloom, and our dreams soar. The way we see ourselves is like a magic mirror, reflecting how we handle life’s twists and turns. Our self-image is the author of our life story, penning tales of triumph or trouble. That’s why self-esteem is the key that unlocks success and happiness.

Imagine self-esteem as the foundation of a house. If it’s shaky, everything built on top wobbles. Most mental health hiccups stem from this wobbly foundation, except for biological glitches. Worries, blues, fear of getting close or shining bright, substance struggles, school or work woes, relationship bumps, bedroom blues, acting childish, dark thoughts, or lashing out – they all trace back to shaky self-esteem. How we judge ourselves matters more than anyone else’s opinion. Solid self-esteem is the secret ingredient for a life well-lived.

Self-esteem is like a two-sided coin. One side says “I can handle this,” the other says “I deserve good things.” It’s about feeling ready for life’s curveballs and knowing you’ve got a spot at the happiness table. High self-esteem is like feeling you’re the right puzzle piece for life. Low self-esteem feels like you’re the wrong shape altogether. Medium self-esteem? That’s like sometimes fitting, sometimes not.

A self-esteem boost helps us:

  • Surf the waves of tough times
  • Pop back up when life knocks us down
  • Stick to our guns
  • Paint outside the lines at work
  • Climb the career ladder
  • Grow roots in healthy relationships
  • Squeeze more juice out of life

The big brains say self-esteem is like the director of our daily life movie. It calls the shots on our choices and actions. Good self-esteem is like having a great director – the movie of our life is more exciting and enjoyable. Poor self-esteem? That’s like a director who keeps yelling “Cut!” before the good stuff happens.

I’ve seen this self-esteem show play out in real life. My buddy Jake used to have self-esteem lower than a limbo stick. He stumbled at work and struck out in the dating game. But after he buffed up his confidence, boom! Promotion at work and a love story that could make rom-coms jealous. Then there’s my friend Sarah – always walked tall with sky-high self-esteem. She cooked up her own business and it’s still sizzling, even when the economy caught a cold.

Self-esteem isn’t just about feeling groovy. It’s about seeing yourself clearly, warts and all, and still giving yourself a thumbs up. It’s knowing your superpowers and your kryptonite. It’s believing you can level up and become an even better version of yourself.

Building self-esteem is like growing a garden. It takes time, care, and the right tools. You’ve got to pull out the weeds of negative thoughts. Plant seeds of goals and water them with hard work. And most importantly, treat yourself like you’d treat a prized rose – with gentleness and love.

Self-esteem boosters:

  • Make a highlight reel of your awesome moments
  • Flex your talent muscles
  • Set goals you can knock out of the park
  • Hang with folks who radiate good vibes
  • Treat your body like a temple
  • Be a lifelong learner
  • Spread kindness like confetti
  • Talk to yourself like you’re your own best friend

Rocking good self-esteem doesn’t mean thinking you’re the cat’s pajamas all the time. It’s about giving yourself a bear hug, flaws and all. It’s knowing you deserve a VIP pass to love and respect.

This self-esteem stuff? It’s everybody’s business. Whether you’re hitting the books, climbing the corporate ladder, juggling sippy cups, or enjoying your golden years, self-esteem colors your world. It’s the paintbrush for your life’s masterpiece.

Pumping up your self-esteem can flip your life’s script. It’s like upgrading from economy to first class. You’ll aim for the stars, take leaps of faith, and bounce back when life tries to knock you down. Your relationships will bloom and life will taste sweeter.

Start small, like a snowball rolling down a hill. Pick one thing to work on. Maybe it’s piping up in meetings or trying salsa dancing. Each little win is a brick in your confidence castle. Before you know it, you’ve built a fortress of self-esteem.

Remember, you’re the VIP of your own life. Everyone deserves to feel like a million bucks. With some elbow grease and time, you can turn up the volume on your self-esteem and rock out to the amazing soundtrack of your life.

About our Author Michelle Landeros, LMFT license# 115130
Author: Michelle Landeros, LMFT

Michelle Landeros is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist (LMFT). She is passionate about helping individuals, couples and families thrive.