5 Key Reasons Behind Failed Interventions
5 Big Reasons Interventions Flop
When times get tough, friends and family can be a lifeline. As a therapist, I’ve seen lots of folks ask how to help someone they care about who’s in a bad spot. Maybe it’s a pal wrestling with addiction or someone whose choices are hurting others.
The good news? **Interventions work wonders when done right.** The pros say they succeed 80-90% of the time! But there’s a catch – you’ve gotta nail the details.
Curious why some interventions crash and burn? Stick with me, and I’ll spill the beans on the top reasons they fail. Plus, I’ll share some insider tips on how to make yours a home run.
1. Winging It Without a Game Plan
Interventions are like walking a tightrope. One wrong step, and poof – your chance is gone. So what does a sloppy plan look like? For starters, fuzzy goals are a recipe for disaster.
Sometimes, an intervention isn’t even the right move. How do you know it’s time? The experts say to watch for **denial, lies, and risky behavior**. These are tough nuts to crack, especially when mixed with addiction.
That’s why getting a pro in your corner is key. They’ll spot the blind spots you might miss. **Hiring an intervention specialist can be a game-changer.** Trust me, you’ll want a therapist on speed dial.
They’ll give you golden nuggets of wisdom that’ll save your bacon when things get real.
But it’s not just about the nuts and bolts. You’ve gotta be ready for a roller coaster of emotions. The person might lash out or break down in tears. If you’re not prepared, things can go south fast.
2. Talking in Circles
At its heart, an intervention is a lifeline to someone drowning. But if you can’t get your message across, it’s like throwing a lead weight instead of a life preserver.
It’s easy for wires to get crossed. The person might feel like they’re under attack and put up their defenses. Once that wall goes up, it’s an uphill battle to show you’re on their side.
Some folks think you need to gather the whole gang for an intervention. But sometimes, less is more. It takes a keen eye to figure out who should be there and who might make things worse.
3. Stubbornness Strikes Back
The biggest roadblock? Often, it’s the person’s own attitude. They might think everything’s hunky-dory. Or maybe they’re hooked on something that’s the root of all their troubles.
Drugs, booze, anger issues – they’re often just the tip of the iceberg. **The real problems are usually hiding underneath.** Until those get sorted out, change will always be an uphill battle.
These hidden monsters could be loneliness, depression, or other mental health gremlins. If you smell something fishy, getting them to a specialist should be top priority.
4. Pie-in-the-Sky Hopes
Some folks think an intervention is like waving a magic wand. They expect their buddy to kick a drug habit overnight. But that’s not how it works in the real world.
An intervention is just the first step on a long journey. **Real change takes teamwork** – from the person, their loved ones, and the pros.
So don’t lose heart if there are bumps in the road. Slips and slides are part of the deal. Make sure your friend knows this too. Set small, doable goals that’ll lead to bigger wins.
The last thing you want is for them to feel like they’re climbing Mount Everest in flip-flops.
Even with top-notch help, few folks make it out of a crisis without a scratch. Recovery’s a bumpy ride, but as long as you stay on track, you’ll reach the finish line.
5. Dropping the Ball After Round One
Even if you dodge all the pitfalls I’ve mentioned, don’t pop the champagne just yet. The follow-through is where the rubber meets the road.
Withdrawal can hit like a ton of bricks when you least expect it. Without ongoing backup, old habits can come roaring back. **Accountability, motivation, and coping tricks** are the secret sauce for keeping the momentum going.
Failing to stick around for the long haul can leave healing half-baked. And trust me, you don’t want to create new problems by leaving old ones half-fixed.
As a friend or family member, you’re the lookout. Keep your eyes peeled for signs that progress is stalling or backsliding.
Wrapping It Up
Interventions can be a lifesaver for all sorts of struggles. Whether it’s substance abuse or attitude adjustments, they can work wonders. But they’re like handling nitroglycerin – one wrong move and boom!
That’s why having a pro in your corner is worth its weight in gold. Don’t rush in half-cocked. Take your time, plan for every “what if,” and you’ll be set up for success.
This guide is a goldmine for anyone thinking about staging an intervention. Whether you’re a concerned friend, family member, or just someone who wants to lend a helping hand, these insights will save you from common pitfalls. Remember, with the right approach, you can be the catalyst for positive change in someone’s life. Now go out there and make a difference!
Author: Michelle Landeros, LMFT
Michelle Landeros is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist (LMFT). She is passionate about helping individuals, couples and families thrive.